A short, private tool to understand what your thoughts about leaving are really telling you.
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Before you begin
A quick, important note
BeforeStay is a self-reflection tool. It does not provide therapy, diagnosis, legal advice, medical advice, or a recommendation to stay in or leave a relationship. Please don't use this tool as the sole basis for major personal, legal, financial, family, or relationship decisions.
If you feel unsafe or are in crisis, instead.
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What brings you here today?
Pick whatever feels closest to your situation. There's no wrong answer — this helps us show you the right questions.
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Your safety matters most.
If you're afraid of your partner's reaction, feel controlled, or sense that an honest conversation could put you in danger — don't treat this tool as a way to confront them. Take care of your safety first, and talk to someone you trust or a professional.
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How it works
What BeforeStay is
BeforeStay is a private self-reflection tool for people questioning their relationship. It helps users organize their thoughts before making major personal decisions. It does not provide therapy, diagnosis, legal advice, medical advice, or a recommendation to stay in or leave a relationship.